Life is Too Short Not to Do What/Be With Who You Love
Life is too short not to make time for what/who matters
Life in the meatsuits we each occupy is finite.
My point is this – knowing time is finite and limited, are you doing what you love? Are you spending time with those you love?
If not now – why not now? Why are we all so hell-bent on unimportant minutia over living here and now, and doing what we love/being with who we love?
Time is an illusion - but fleeting nonetheless
I recently read something that explained two notions of the function of time. Newtonian (based on the science of Sir Isaac Newton) and Einsteinian (based on the science of Albert Einstein). The former is linear – the latter is non-linear and fluid.
Either way – time as we perceive it comes with limits. How much you get in this conscious awareness and current life experience is wickedly variable.
But no matter how you examine this – what you do with your time is wholly on you.
What you love/who you love isn’t about romance
The word love is too often romanticized.
Sure, some obligations are not what you love or with who you love. But you have a choice to let those dominate your life – or to prioritize your time to make the most of it.
Love is too easily relegated to family and romantic partners. But love is so, so, so much more than that.
Mindfulness is active conscious awareness for choice
When you are actively consciously aware – mindful – you empower yourself. This is how you take control of the one thing you have absolute control over. What you’re thinking, what and how you’re feeling, what you intend, and actions you do or don’t take.
When you practice being aware – mindful in the here and now – you can make choices to actively work to be with the people you love and do what you love. No, it won’t be all the time – there are obligations and necessary things you must do to earn money and care for others.
This week’s Applied Guidance for Mindfulness Tool:
This is a very simple tool. Get a pen and paper or type this out.
Write down who and what you love. Everything, no matter how seemingly insignificant. It should include tangible/material and intangible/immaterial. Nothing is too big or too small.
For example – part of my list:
Storytelling. Writing blogs. Recording my podcast. Reading books. Time with my wife. Time with friends and family. Taking walks and going on hikes. Medieval fencing. Sunlight. Starry nights. A steady rain. My cats. Dogs. Chocolate. Coffee. Birdsong. Drives in my car.
Look at your list. How much of it have you done today?
Repeat as often as you need to do what/be with who you love more regularly and frequently. See how that makes you feel overall.
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