Does Self-Awareness Matter When Life Sucks?
Even when life sucks, YOU choose what you do with it
What do you do when it all sucks?
Lament or live.
It would be very, very easy to lament what’s going on.
I could go on and on about the many things that suck that have been going on. I could lament multiple potentials, and unknown futures resulting from all of this. I could wallow in the total suckage of this situation – and let it pull me down into a depression.
Or I can live. I can accept that this sucks, it’s not fair or fun, but it is. And since lamenting it will just make me feel worse, I suppose I can choose to live and keep on keeping on.
Sometimes life sucks
That’s the truth of it. Sometimes, life sucks. Shit happens. People get unexpectedly ill. You get sick. Relationships end. Jobs are lost. Friends become dumpster fires. And there isn’t a damned thing you can do about it.
Do you like to be in control? I do. Do you like to direct your life experiences to desired outcomes? I suspect that, for the most part, you do. And that’s the hardest thing of all to accept – no control.
But apart from you – specifically your inner being and thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions – you have no other control. Just that seemingly limited amount.
Choose negativity, neutrality, or positivity
I’ve chosen positivity in the face of suckage. I also recognize that as much as this all sucks – it could be far, far worse. And I’m grateful that it’s not.
You can make no choice and attempt to remain neutral.
You could choose negativity. Lament what sucks, express how much woe it causes, and allow your feelings to spiral downwards.
There is no wrong choice. But all choices have results, consequences, and other outcomes when made. But choice in the face of suckage is a matter of taking control via your conscious awareness of your life experience. As opposed to yielding control to unseen forces of the Universe.
What do you do when it all sucks? The choices are yours to make.
This week’s Applied Guidance for Mindfulness Tool:
Is there something happening, right now, that sucks?
If so – take a close look at that something. What is it?
Write down what it is, and ask and answer the following questions:
· Why do you think it sucks?
· How does it feel like it sucks?
· What does it feel like?
· What caused this thing that sucks?
As you answer the questions, consider if lamenting this serves you. Or if you’d be better served by releasing it and moving on.
Write down how you can release it.
If there isn’t something that sucks at present – or there’s something in the recent past of often recurring but not here now, use that for this exercise.
Hopefully, this shows you that when life sucks you can still choose to take control and work with that.
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